I am probably one of the most open minded people sexually compared to the average American. (Now compared to some of the freaky authors I roll with, perhaps not!)
I think everyone should be able to do pretty much whatever it is they want, within the confines of an ADULT sexual relationship, as long as all parties involved are of like mind. Now, mind you I did say "pretty much". Even I have limits. An animal has no way of being "like-minded" and I was especially cautious to throw in there the ADULT part.
But like anyone else, I have my own hang-ups, we all do, and there are certain limits that I do not like to cross. I am always open and up-front with my partner when we discuss the do's and don'ts of our potential sexual relationship.
No water sports. No excessive pain. No other woman (sorry, I don't like pie, except my pie.)
One of my strong lines in the sand is cumming on my face.
Men seem to be transfixed with giving a woman "a facial". Is it that all the hot little porn stars are doing it? Perhaps. But I see something much darker in the act.
I see it as demeaning. And I refuse to allow a man to demean me in that way.
***Now, before I continue, I must stop and say that this is my PERSONAL OPINION...it is the reason why I will not allow a man to do it to ME. If you are female and enjoy it, then this is in no way a judgment of how you like to roll. You do you, honey.***
But in saying so, in my personal opinion, cumming on a woman's face is an act of aggression. It is a man's way of humiliating his partner, making her submit to his will.
And I just won't do it.
I love a good dominant man, one who likes to take charge in the bedroom and go all out alpha on me. But that is where I draw the line. It just isn't happening.
And that also leads to the whole, spit or swallow situation.
Dudes, bottom line, most of you have spunk that tastes nasty. Seriously nasty. At least in my experiences, which I will have to admit border on the edge of slutville.
My first hero was an alien that had cheesecake flavored spunk, no lie, as a joke. She ate him up with a spoon. And if a guy tasted like that, I sure as hell would, too.
"Well, if she loves me, she'll swallow it anyway." What-the-fuck-ever. Let's put a foul tasting slug in your mouth and see if you'll swallow it if you love ME.
Yes, I have been with men who I have had cum that tasted okay. There have been men I loved enough to do it for, because I DID want to please him (and it tasted okay....I don't care how much I love you, if it's vile, I'm not putting it in my mouth.)
There are ways to improve the taste...the old fruit bit, with a extra special helping of fresh pineapple everyday. Cutting back on the beer and soda, drinking more wine. It has helped in past experience, but not for everyone. Some guys are just predisposed to having nasty tasting jizz. Sorry about your luck.
I guess where I'm going with this is that I actually have had guys pissed off because I wouldn't let them cum on my face. It was something they'd always wanted to do or always did with exes. I really don't care...I'm allowed to have my opinion and set a limit that you should respect.
And ultimately, that is the whole point of this rant.
We all have limits. Some can be pushed, others can not. Those limits should be respected. If it's something that you just can't live without doing, then discuss it, in a reasonable manner and don't try to manipulate a lover by using the "if you love me" card. If a guy tried to push that shit on me, I'd walk. And have.
Men always say that reading erotic romances equates to men watching porn, and I will have to say I agree to some point that that is true. Men are very visual, women are more emotional, we all get our fixes in different ways.
So let's compare apples to apples, shall we?
So here's my deal, oh future men I shall have sex with. If you become one of the sexy, cut, alpha males in one of my stories, pure love and devotion, protecting me from every evil on Earth, offering hard-core sexual pleasure focused on little ole me then you can cum on my face or down my throat all you want. Sounds about fair to me.
BTW...when I typed in "cum" to google pictures, guess what I found? A page full of facials. Really? Am I the only one out there who hates the sight?