So this week is all about anal play. Not for the squeamish, it is what I can best call an acquired taste. For as long as there have been sex toys, there have been anal sex toys. It is believed that many of the dildo-esque items found in excavation sites up to 30,000 years ago could have potentially been used in anal play, and from some ancient cave paintings found, anal sex and anal play have been around since the dawn of man.
Leave it to the good old Greeks to use their art to show anal sex and anal sex play - items have been found as old as 500 B.C. that show their love for all things anal. In the picture below, date unsure, it proof via the man in the center, that the Greeks loved anal toy play.
As the sexual revolution hit, a new wave of interest occurred in anal toys.
In 1995, a survey was conducted that showed only 12% of women ages 18-35 had indulged in anal sex/play. The same survey was conducted in 2005 - and the percentage jumped to 40% in the same age range. Though still not everyone's cup of tea - and the potential for discomfort doesn't help, anal sex/play is still sometimes considered a fetish.
As far as toys, the typical vaginal type are available for anal use - dildos and vibrators, but if made specifically for anal use are usually smaller. Vaginal toys can be used anally, but there are some rules that need to be followed that we will discuss below.
There are a few specific toys made especially for the anal play - the butt plug and anal beads.
Now, a quick anatomy lesson to explain a few key points. A woman has a band of nerves inside the vagina - under her urethra (where you pee, silly) that is highly sensitive and called the "G-spot". It DOES exist. The "G-spot" has what is called "legs" thin strips of sensitive nerves that extend to the anus. In men, they have the equivalent of a "G-spot" -- the Prostrate. Located in the rectum, anal play can help heighten a male orgasm, if your man can get past the homosexual undertones, if that is a concern for him.
Either sex can benefit from anal play, but there are some rules I mentioned earlier that need to be followed.
1. Anal play can be messy, and hard to clean up. I think we allllll know what I am talking about, so I am not spelling it out here. Even after a good bath, a anal toy can be a breeding ground for bacteria. Using a condom to cover all anal toys is highly recommended -- it will keep the toy clean and can be easily disposed of afterwards.
2. If a toy is used vaginally as well, the toy MUST be covered with a condom. Before a toy used anally can be inserted vaginally, the condom should be switched out to prevent harmful bacteria from entering the vagina - and this goes for penises too! If riding bareback, wash before going from butt to vag!!
3. If you got the itch to try anal toys from watching porn - keep a couple of things in mind. A.) These are pros - a 13" butt plug is going to hurt. B.) Anal beads should not be ripped out quickly as in porn, especially if you are a newbie. Anal tissues are tender and can be delicate to ripping and tearing.
4. LUBRICATE!!! As stated in the last rule, tissues there are tender. Help ease the fun (and lessen the potential sting) by using lube.
5. And this last rule is more of a suggestion. Try any anal toy for the first time alone. It can ease the awkwardness and allow you to know what feels good and what doesn't before your partner gets involved.
And before I can end this, I have to go into the world of the weird a little...some of the most interesting anal toys I found in my searching - the pony play butt plug with attached tail, the anal balloon with pump, the plug with gem stone base ("for extended wear and beauty during showing"), the "Doublefister" (OUCH), and finally the "Anal Impaler"-- a get up that locks around the ankles and has a post between the feet.